Category Archives: Lactivism

Facebook deleted one of our members :(

This morning I was informed that a member of our group has had her account deleted by Facebook for posting a picture I shared on our group wall yesterday.  Apparently she shared it on the wall of another Facebook group, and the assumption is that it got reported.

This is the image: 



I have seen very many comments to the effect that Facebook ‘must have’ deleted this picture because there was a nipple exposed and visible, even though the baby is nursing in the photo.

Facebook’s ‘rules’ on breastfeeding images state the following: 

Photos that show a fully exposed breast where the child is not actively engaged in nursing do violate Facebook’s Statement of Rights and Responsibilities. ‘

But how do we interpret this statement?  There is a child actively engaged in nursing in the photo.  What about a picture – such as this – where a child is actively nursing and there is still an exposed breast (the other one)?  You think I’m being pedantic?  I don’t.  In fact, I think the very fact that this statement exists at all shows how ‘above the law’ Facebook think they are.  You don’t need a rule about breastfeeding images – breastfeeding is not dirty, it’s not sexual, and it’s not against the law.  The statement is clearly open to some interpretation…

What if there’s a child feeding at BOTH BREASTS?  Tandem photos should be fine according to Facebook’s ‘rule’.  Babies actively breastfeeding, no nipples.  All ok.

Have a look here.  Both children actively engaged in breastfeeding.  But Facebook deleted it.  Then they deleted the user who posted it.  Scroll through the site linked above and you will see countless other examples of the same thing happening.

A lot of posts I’ve read seem to suggest that Facebook would NEVER delete a photo which didn’t contravene their own (made up) rules.  Of course they would!  They do it EVERY DAY.

Their statement about their stance on breastfeeding photos is just a smoke screen.  It’s a deliberately grey area.  Why so grey?  Well, let’s get real.

Facebook may well be complicit in direct discrimination.  Although the law hasn’t been fully tested in this area yet, it is illegal for a service provider to discriminate against breastfeeding women* in a public place.  Facebook provides it’s users with a number of services, and just because their business (marketplace/ advertising/ direct marketing etc) is conducted on the internet doesn’t mean that legislation ceases to apply.  Facebook know that their under-trained (outsourced) staff are deleting breastfeeding pictures daily.  Given the lack of clarity and leadership their staff seem to be operating under, it’s hardly a surprise that they delete photos willy-nilly.
*http://www.maternityaction.org.uk/sitebuildercontent/sitebuilderfiles/breastfeedingpublicplace.pdf

What POSSIBLE reason could there be for Facebook’s staff deleting this picture other than poor judgement?


You might be thinking to yourself ‘surely if it’s as easy as direct discrimination then Facebook can just be sued‘.  

Who has that sort of money?  Not me.  I doubt any of you have it either – so who is going to pay to take Facebook to court for discrimination?  If you’re up for starting a fund and finding a lawyer, then I am!  Perhaps the Equality Commission would be a good place for us to start.

One excuse Facebook gave recently for this ongoing policy of deleting images showing breastfeeding/ female exposed breasts is that they are following industry standards.

These policies are based on the same standards that apply to television and print media.‘ they say.

Perhaps someone needs to tell this to Benetton (email press@benetton.it) – it’s their AWARD-WINNING advertisement that Facebook deleted.  The image is from 1989.  That’s over TWENTY YEARS AGO.  They are far from the only mainstream advertisers using breastfeeding imagery to sell products. 

In the world of print, this image (taken by Annie Leibovitz) of Jerry Hall breastfeeding appeared on the cover of Vanity Fair and The Australian Magazine. 



Other celebrities have breastfed on the covers mainstream publications, including Kelly Preston, and Angelina Jolie and countless more have been featured inside the magazines and newspapers themselves.  Let’s not forget the beautiful front cover image from Italian Vogue which Facebook deemed unsuitable too.  



Mainstream television in the UK and the US has being showing fully exposed female breasts for years for a variety of reasons.

Same standards my big toe.

Facebook haven’t got a leg to stand on.  As we say in my part of the world – they’re all over the place.  They may say they’re following mainstream standards, but they’re just NOT.

Bottom line – we shouldn’t be tolerating Facebook’s behaviour on this – they aren’t a law unto themselves.  Why should it be ok for Facebook to say fully exposed male breasts/ chests are allowed, but female ones must get deleted?   If Facebook was a restaurant which openly and repeatedly discriminated against breastfeeding mothers, we’d never go back.  Our right to breastfeed IN PUBLIC (nipple or not!) is protected by law.

We need to challenge this status quo.  Breasts are first and foremost for feeding infants – that is why we grow them.

I was serious about starting that fund.

Tru-Breast

Grateful thanks to Anna who posted this on the wall of the old DBM facebook page.
I know that it’s done the rounds many times before (also here), but I’ve never seen the original picture so I thought I’d share it here for posterity – you’ll probably need your ‘zoom’ handy to view it properly.


I love the tag-line – it kind of sums up breastfeeding for me: 


‘in hope that it will help make this
a better world to live in’


Facebook Protest #fbbf #Dublin

Well, I did it.  Got us all there and back in pretty much one piece.  

Emergency boob-stops = 4 
Dirty nappies changed on the front seat = 4
Emotional breakdowns (mine) = 1.5
Illegal U-turns after wrong turns >6

I’m sure there’s more but I’ve blanked it out…  Here’s what I can remember:


When we arrived, two HR reps (both women) from Facebook met us and invited us in out of the drizzle and into the lobby.  They even offered us coffee! 


Fiona from the fabulous Friends of Breastfeeding had brought along examples of some of the deleted images to show to representatives of Facebook.  The ladies from the HR department confirmed that Facebook supports breastfeeding and seemed genuinely surprised when they saw some of the images that have been deleted.  They told us that Facebook only deletes photos when they show lots of skin – however Fiona’s pictures told a different story.  The HR ladies also confirmed to me verbally that all flagged photos are reviewed by a real human being before being deleted.  Definitely a training need then..

You can view some of the pictures Facebook has deleted over the years on this website.

Facebook’s representatives also kept a good eye out for the press, and they informed them that they had to wait outside and weren’t allowed to film in the lobby.  We soon realised that Facebook was probably trying to make it look (from outside the building) like very few people had turned up.  If we stayed inside (in the warm!) then clearly fewer of the mums would be able to talk to the press, there would be no usable photos and the net result would much less press coverage of the protest.  Sneaky!

So of course we had to go outside again – fortunately it had stopped drizzling by then.


DBM group member the lovely Grainne (a real baby whisperer for her ‘That’s Not My Monkey’ efforts with dd2 on the M1) was brave enough to be interviewed by RTE.  Go girl!

Many other mums were interviewed or photographed by members of the press, and Chris from Friends of Breastfeeding gave a really excellent speech.  Well done to everybody who made an effort to speak out publicly to raise awareness of this long standing problem.  I’m sure many of them felt the same as me – like a fish out of water.




I was lucky to meet MANY amazing women – and not a few amazing men – too many to list here.  Amongst them was Niamh from The Mama’s Hip Blog (pictured above) who has written her account of the day here.  
I honestly think EVERYONE who attended today deserves a ‘big-up’ for making the effort to come along.  People had travelled from all over the island (from as far away as Derry and Waterford) to attend. 

So many people are ‘armchair activists’, and I guess I don’t really get it.  Essentially they agree with something, but they’ll tell you they just don’t ‘do’ protests.  It’s not their *thing*.

Well I’ll tell you – it’s not my *thing* either.  I do NOT get a kick out of an 190 mile round trip alone with two small children (who does?).  I find the thought of being labelled a ‘lactivist’ a real turn off.  It’s certainly not something I aspire to be!  I just want mums to be supported to breastfeed if they want to.  I certainly don’t want anyone (in this case Facebook) making it harder for them by making out they’re doing something weird.  So even though it’s not my *thing* I accept that protesting is sometimes necessary.  

As nice as it was to meet so many lovely people, I hope I don’t have to do anything like this again.  Ever!  I just don’t want it to be an issue.  

On the upside, there was cake! 


Well done to all the people all over the world who turned up to the protests today, thank you to everyone who changed their profile pictures in support, and to those who wanted to come but couldn’t make it – it’s your turn next time 😉

Below, the real face of ‘lactivism’.


EDITED TO ADD:  In the time it’s taken for me to write and review this post I’ve seen on Twitter that @babycalmclasses has been banned from Facebook for three days for (seemingly) posting a cartoon showing a newborn having skin to skin with a topless mum.  I SO hope this isn’t true. 😦

Here are links to some of the press coverage of today’s protest.  If you have blogged about this or know of an article I’ve missed, please let me know so I can add it to the list: